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BDSM Test Results – What I Agree With, Disagree With & Was Surprised by…

My results from bdsmtest.org

I had a blog post planned for today but I could not find one of the photos that I would’ve liked to use so I decided to put that post on hold for now. But I still needed something to write about since today is Monday and….every Monday I post something new. Recently I gained a new follower and as I do with any follower I went to the persons page to take a look at there post to see if I was interested in it. I saw that this person took the bdsmtest.org exam and I had never heard about it before. They posted there results which I found interesting but they didn’t elaborate on them which I wish they would’ve because I love a good long read. Nonetheless I did enjoy it and it was the first thing that came to mind today when I was thinking of things to write about. I took the test and it was fairly easy, I did choose the option for the longer version of the test but if you don’t have much time there’s a shorter version. When I received my results there were somethings that surprised me, others that I agreed with and a few I didn’t agree with.

What I Disagree With….

We can start with what I don’t agree with in terms of the results. I did take screenshots with there definitions of the specific terms for those who might want to read them . It shows me as 0% vanilla and I don’t believe that to be true. I may be pretty submissive and have my kinks but I do think that there is some vanilla in me. Now there definition does say quite a lot and I can’t agree that i’m every part of there version of vanilla. I do like parts of a vanilla relationship like what they reference as the relationship model however i’m not really into regular standard sex. The more I write this the more I think they may be right lol! All I can say is that I do enjoy a peer to peer relationship but I also need the D/s portion of it to be successful. I’m currently in a solely vanilla relationship that works but I can’t say for 100% sure that the relationship would continue to work long term if I weren’t getting my kinkier needs met by my other partner. Because although I’ve always enjoyed my vanilla relationship I made it clear from the beginning that I am kinky and had plans on seeking that need out. I feel like Vanilla should have been at least 15% not 0% because I like vanilla relationships but the caveat is I still need and crave the bdsm side of life. If I were in a solely kinky relationship I don’t think i’d have as much of a craving desire to be in a vanilla relationship like how I crave more bdsm related stuff when i’m in a vanilla relationship. Its tricky!

I’m not an age player at all and its listed as 46% percent for me. The way the question was posed I could see how they might gather that but not at such a high percentage. The question was phrased more like do I enjoy an age gap in my sex life. Yes I do happen to enjoy dating a bit older then me and in some cases a lot but I don’t like age play in the way they are referring to it. Wicked is 9 years older and Doublemint is 16 years older. I’m not however interested in playing the part as a younger character, pacifiers or any of that in or out of scene.I like my men older but I like to play my age. There was also a question that I think might’ve played a part in the percentage as well about wanting a partner that nurtures and guides. And also one on liking childlike things. The problem is that is I am a child at heart. I’m a Disney loving girl and there is a sense of smallness that I enjoy. I’ll have to explain..because again its tricky! I’d enjoy sitting in his lap and watching a Disney movie in the same way that id enjoy sitting in his lap and resting my head on his shoulder as he rubs my back and soothes me. There are times when I feel small and I need that nurturing feeling . I say soothes me because if i’m down or just in a melancholy mood there is a smallness to me that I like nurtured in that way. Sometimes I just need him to be big when i’m small. Outside of that sad feeling I don’t mind being small for him and i’m sure this speaks more to my submissiveness. Because that sense of being owned or possessed makes me feel proud. For example yesterday we were out and joking around and in the midst of that I said well i’m not a hooligan. He says yes you are but you’re my hooligan (you would’ve needed to be there in order to understand the joke) . I know that seems like something so minuscule but that “my” made me feel proud and fulfilled. This is so much harder to explain then I thought. Moral of the story is that age play should be 0% even though my answers to the way they phrased the questions might’ve lead the computer to think otherwise.

I don’t agree that non monogamist should have been that low of a percentage in comparison to things like voyeur. I am poly so non monogamist should have at a minimum been much higher on the totem pole definitely above voyeur. I do like watching people have sex but I can’t say that I like it more then being poly same goes for pet. I also don’t agree that I should be at 100% for rope bunny because I don’t feel like I’ve done enough play to solidify such high of a percentage. The questions mainly asked about points of arousal sexually from being tied up . I do like to be bound and fucked…yes it turns me on. And yes I do like being at the mercy of my partner. But I think I need to experience more bondage and I also i’d want to see if it turns me on solely if i’m not also being fucked. I need to see if the feeling I get just from being tied arouses me. Lastly i’m not a brat.

What I Agree With….

I actually agree with a lot of the results. Submissive and experimentalist I do agree with. I am one of those people that wants to try everything sexually for the most part just to see how i’d feel about it. I don’t mind trying things just to see if i’d enjoy it before I shoot it down completely. I don’t like to just say no if I haven’t tried it because you never know what could turn you on. However there are a few things I just don’t desire to try like..fisting so maybe it should be more like 96% lol. I talk a lot about my submissive feelings in What I Learned from My First Formal Bdsm Session so you can read more about that there and why i’d agree. I agree with exhibitionist, i’m for sure more of a voyeur then exhibitionist. My version of exhibitionism would be having sex on a balcony up high where people could possibly see, maybe even in a park where there is a possibility of people passing by. However If I were attending a party for example then I wouldn’t mind because the expectation would be that everyone at this party would be having sex in the open but in the privacy of that place…..hopefully that makes sense. I agree with pet…that’s all I will say on that, maybe i’ll elaborate more on that one day. I agree with masochist and its percentage for the most part. I think there definition is pretty good, for me its about the type of pain. I’m not aroused by all pain. Its funny because Wicked calls me a pain wimp when he works on my skin because I tend to get in grown hairs or pimples which he lances…that hurts. I tend to squirm and whimper..it involves many forehead kisses. But on the other hand he could spank me with a belt and I enjoy it. Two different types of pains with two different reactions.

What Surprised Me…..

There were two things that surprised me and I’m still parsing through my thoughts on it. Slave and degradee were the two that took me by surprise. Slave moreso because of how high of a percentage it is and because I never saw myself in that position. Now with that being said I could see how the test could gather that i’d be into it for sure. I’m also torn because I don’t know if i’m feeling this way because i’m really surprised or that i’m not surprised but I worry about what it may say about me as a person. This is an odd feeling because it speaks to how I felt when I first discovered what I was into sexually and felt a bit closeted because I was concerned that I didn’t fit into the norm. Also the terminology, I wonder if it was the same exact definition for slave but different word if i’d feel more comfortable…I don’t know. I have to give that more thought. Degradee is an interesting one because it really depends on the situation. I’d say that the percentage for this is too high.

What I Don’t Understand….

I’m not really sure on Prey in the primal category . I don’t know much about primal play but according to the test i’d best fit the role of prey. I’ll have to look into that. I’m always open to learn something new.

I write a new blog post every Monday. Feel free to comment and follow…I don’t bite 🙂 – Sadie ❤

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